SelfCareSchool

The lessons, videos, workbooks, and downloadables are all hosted within SelfCareSchoool.co.uk and you can access the welcome pack from the moment you sign up. The private VIP Facebook group is live for you to dip into any time and get coaching from me, report on your progress and stumbles, and have a brilliant community of folk to encourage you back on track. The invite to the group is in your welcome pack. The group calls happen at Wednesday nights 7 pm UK time on zoom, and you will be sent an invite to this in your welcome pack.

The course is based on robust mindset tools. I do not teach anything which I have not used myself and know to be completely transformative. Does that mean it will be transformative for you? Of course not. But what I do know and have learnt is that everything we do or don't do comes from our own brains, and once you have learnt this stuff, you are unstoppable.

The workbooks and videos are self-study so you can work on them in a way which suits your schedule. The calls are around an hour every week. There are be replays available.

Catch up when you can if you want to, there is no obligation. Replays will be available for you in your portal. There is also a form where you can submit questions to be coached on even if you cannot make the call.

The magic of this work is that it will immediately address the most significant obstacle holding you back in your life. It does not matter where you are, what your background is or how you arrive at this work; the thing that is causing you not to be where you want to be - that is the thing your brain is going to start looking at, frankly, to prove me wrong. So it can feel right and SAFE. But the more you look at what is keeping you from what you want in life, through the lens of these tools, the more you can clearly see that just because something is familiar, that does not mean it is something you still need to cling to. Maybe other thoughts could be possible. The group is intentionally mixed abilities of people who come in with a fresh mind and people who have been using these tools since I first began to teach them. And we all learn SO MUCH from each other, from our different life experiences, and from that eye-opening moment where you hear someone else vocalising what you thought had been your own secret little story you have not yet put into words. And when the fear, the imposter syndrome and the doubts all come up, you will be surrounded by a team of people cheering you on and guiding you back to the safe shores of remembering that all of us are worthy.

If you do not have time to do the things you want to do, then that is a problem, right? And if you continue to do what you are doing, you will create more of what you are already getting. Something has to change. How much time do you waste being unkind to yourself? Judging yourself? Getting mixed up in other people's stories? In indecision? What if you could spend one hour a week for one-month learning tools which could change your whole life? What if this was the path which could empower you to make the changes in your life so that you can say yes to everything you want to? No one ever taught us how to use our brains. They just taught us how to use them as storage bins. Managing your mind is a skill and one you can learn. And once you learn to create your own results, you can do so again and again. I used to think I didn't have time. Now I do the things I want to when I want to. This mindset fix taught me how.

It's actually kinda the opposite: Taking control of your reactions is the opposite of rolling over. Taking full responsibility for any situation gives you your agency and power back. This course is not about some quick fix pretending it never happened; I teach you to understand the desire driving your behaviour so you can decide where you want to accelerate and where you might want to hit the brakes.

"I’ve had my fair share." "I shouldn’t take more than I already have." "I think someone else deserves it more." Does any of that sound familiar? I’ve been thinking a lot about how hard it is to ask for help when you need it most lately. My body has been unruly my whole life, but more so as an adult. I spent three years unable to walk, I have gone through various points in my life where my sight would stop working, and I’ve had spells where my arms hung loosely by my sides for months at a time, and I needed aides to help me do excruciating upheaval tasks such as opening a door. I know what it is like to feel like you’re tired of asking for help. Sometimes I feel it is rooted in not wanting to be seen as a victim. I want to tough it out and prove your independence and that you can make it on your own. Most often, I think it is about this fear that if you ask for support, someone else will have less support. Like it is a help cake, and you stole someone else’s slice. Time, support and compassion don’t divvy up that way, and yet we guilt our way into thinking we are doing someone else out of their fair share (whilst ignoring that our plate is also empty). Maybe it is more difficult because if you have ever been overlooked, you have more empathy to try and make sure no one else feels like that. It is just curious this rarely extends to ourselves. But I fear one of the most common reasons people who need support the most are hesitant to ask for it is that we never know when we may need that help more – and we don’t want the goodwill pot to run dry. It can often feel like you have an allotted number of times you can reach out or ask for help or support before you become a burden or, heaven forbid, a nuisance. I run my work on an if you can, if you can’t and if you need basis. It flies in the face of every business planning class I have ever done – and yet – it works. It works because I know that by making my work more accessible, more people who need it can have it in their lives. By offering photoshoots to anyone who needs them – and they can decide what price bracket they fall into, I suddenly open doors to people to be able to make choices based on their own circumstances and still have the good things in life. The magical extras that feel like indulgent treats and make us feel like self-care is indulgent rather than the oil that lubricates the wheel.

Firstly, what are the results you are getting from this thought? How does it make you feel? I think investing money in our mental and emotional health and well-being is the best investment of our lives because everything we do or don't do comes from our brains. I also acknowledge that structural oppression exists, as does general wealth and privilege, and many oppressions come with a lot of additional expenses. I am not interested in creating work which replicates systems which got us here in the first place. I want people to be able to access my work, whatever their finances because this stuff is utterly transformative. Which is why I offer bursary spaces for my work. It is a practice in receiving. You'll need to ask for one, but anyone who needs a free space can actually get access to the work. This is also why I offer a forward option: the community can support each other to access the tools they need to create their own breakthroughs. See the pricing options for more details.