You need to have better boundaries
How many times have you heard that?
But what does it even mean?
And why is no one teaching us how to do it, if it is something everyone else thinks we should already be doing?
I used to be so proud of myself for being “boundaryless”.
I thought it meant I was a good person, that I gave everything away, but secretly it meant I hoped they would like me.
Whenever I used to say “No”, I thought I needed to come up with three chapters about how it was nothing personal and perhaps next time.
I don’t find it helpful when people tell you what you should be doing without explaining it. Which is why I made you a free workbook. I don’t think you SHOULD be doing anything. But I do think if so many people think their boundaries are an issue, then surely we should be trying to support each other to map a way out of here?