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Ask for What You Want
(Without Feeling Guilty)
Does your heart pound when you think about asking someone to inconvenience themselves for you?
Do you get all flustered even thinking about the idea of asserting your needs?
(Let alone having them)
Does guilt wash over you every time you say "no"?
Or does your no come with a full paragraph about how terribly sorry you are and that you may be able to do it another time and what could you do insteads?
If any of these scenarios sound familiar, read on -
because this course is going to be a month you are not going to want to miss.
Stand Up For Your Wants and Needs
Ever catch yourself thinking:
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🤔 "Why is it so hard for me to voice what I want?"
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🤔 "Why do I feel like I'm being too demanding?"
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🤔 "Why am I anxious about asking for a simple favour?"
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🤔 "Why can't I just ask my friends to respect my schedule?"
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🤔 "Why am I always the one accommodating everyone else's needs?"
Say Goodbye to Guilt:
Learn How to Ask for What You Want
TLDR:
We work on:
- Better communication skills: Learn how to clearly and concisely express your needs and wants, and how to listen effectively to the other person's response.
- Increased confidence: Feel more powerful and in control of your life by asking for what you want in a confident and assertive way.
- Reduced stress and anxiety: Overcome your fears of asking for what you want and feel more comfortable asserting yourself.
This course will be great if you've ever thought:
"I don't want to be a bother"
"I worry about hurting others' feelings if I ask for things."
"I need to find a way to resolve conflicts without damaging the relationship."
"I'm always taking on too much and then I have no time for myself"
Applications:
- Negotiations at Work
- Relationships
- Social Commitments
- Family better parent.
- Looking after yourself
Course outcomes:
- Enhanced relationship quality
- Improved self-confidence
- Boosted communication skills
- Assertiveness in personal and work relationships
- Increased motivation
- Clarity and confidence in expressing needs
This course aims to equip you with tools and resources to create your relationship rulebook and cease the cycle of stress and frustration.
It's time to Reclaim Your Power
Does the thought of asking for what you want fill you with anxiety?
It's time for a shift.
Do you feel weighed down by the guilt and worry about coming across as needy or selfish?
You deserve to voice your needs without fear (or having to worry about how dreadful people may think you are for having *gasp* actual needs)
Is self-doubt getting in the way of you asking for what you really want?
Do you often find yourself agreeing to things just to keep the peace, even when it's at the expense of your own desires?
It's time for a change.
If you're nodding along to these questions, then this course is your guiding light. I offer insights on reshaping your mindset to assert your needs and wants without the guilt.
You deserve a life where you focus less on pleasing others and more on advocating for your own needs and desires.
Let's untangle this socialisation and get back to basics. Because you deserve a life where you spend less energy criticising yourself and more doing - well - all the way more important stuff in life.
Do you just need more hours in the day?
But even if you had them, there would still not be enough time for you to actually get to relax?
...Or maybe you feel like the to-do list is more like the book you don't have time to write.
...Or maybe you've been having to do all the stuff so long you cannot even imagine what relaxation looks like.
- And then there is the dishes
- and the whattsapp notifications
- and that mate who you have had to cancel on twice already
- and the family stuff
- and the life admin
- and aren't your houseplants looking a bit neglected
- and when someone asks you if you've been warching that latest series on TV it makes you want to explode?
If you're anything like me, there just always seems to be some more things to be done. I always used to find it really tough to slow down (let alone stop) because it just made me worried about how much more I would l have to do tomorrow.
It. Is. Exhausting.
You deserve better.
You deserve a life where you get to focus on yourself and not be a human to-do list.
Does the mere thought of expressing your needs
Often fill you with trepidation?
This discomfort can often stem from a deep-seated feeling of the daunting notion that everyone else has their act together, while you're fumbling in the dark. If you've found your way here, I bet you can relate.
(Oh, and not to mention the societal conditioning that often equates asking for what you want with being high-maintenance...but we'll be covering that stuff too.)
This mindset coaching course is meticulously designed to help you navigate the guilt
which can come with asserting your needs, so that you have more space and time to live a life that genuinely feels good for you.
I'm a firm believer that everyone has the right to voice their wants without feeling guilty. But, let's be honest, it can feel like a steep climb when you're constantly questioning how other people are going to react.
And what that means about you.
And what that means about them.
And if it is all going to be OK.
And whether you should have just kept your mouth shut in the first place.
It's exhausting, isn't it?
If you're tired of feeling guilty
every time you want to open your mouth
it's time to start writing a new script. I remember the days when I used to bite my tongue and suppress my desires, fearing I'd cause a rift or come across as demanding. But I learned that expressing my needs didn't make me selfish; it made me honest and assertive. I would love to share with you the methods that helped me transform this and freed me from trying to constantly micro-manage how other people respond to me.
Course curriculum
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Ask for What You Want - Introduction - video
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Ask for What You Want - Welcome - video
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Ask for What You Want - Welcome - workbook
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Ask for What You Want - Welcome - workbook - plain text version
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A note on "live calls"
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 1 - video
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 1 - workbook
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 1 - workbook - plain text version
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 2 - video
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 2 - workbook
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 2 - workbook - plain text version
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 3 - video
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 3 - workbook
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 3 - workbook - plain text version
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 4 - video
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 4 - workbook
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Ask for What You Want - Chapter 4 - workbook - plain text version
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About this course
- £97.00
- 21 lessons
- 2 hours of video content
Your Transformation
By investing in this course, you'll learn how to
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Stop over-Stop committing
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Stop feeling like you cannot stop or it will all fall apart
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Learn how to listen to what you body truly needs
By investing in this course, you'll learn to:
- Articulate your needs and desires without guilt
- Communicate assertively and effectively
- Overcome self-doubt that's been hindering your growth
- Stop the relentless comparison with others and focus on your own journey
Your Transformation
- Speak Your Truth without Guilt
- Improve Interactions with Others
- Empower Your Decisions with Confidence
- Boost Self-Esteem
- Set Clear and Honest Boundaries
- Navigate personal and professional relationships with more clarity and less guilt
Who am I?
Hi, I'm Anna, also known as HeardinLondon
Anna HeardinLondon
Confidence coach and empowerment photographer
Why is this important
Well, because waiting for others to read your mind is exhausting and, let's be honest, unrealistic.
Taking charge of your communication can help you:
💖 Boost self-confidence and trust in your own decisions
💖 Appreciate your needs as valid, rather than feeling like a burden
💖 Steer clear of people-pleasing tendencies
💖 Liberate yourself from guilt attached to your desires
💖 Nurture healthier, more satisfying interactions
I don’t say it lightly when I claim this work can change lives. It has changed mine.
I don’t say it lightly when I claim this work can change lives. It has changed mine.
Imagine a life where you no longer waste time trying to guess how someone else may react to your requests.
In this course, you can foster:
✨ Unwavering confidence in voicing your needs
✨ Increased opportunities for personal growth
✨ Deeper understanding and empathy towards yourself
✨ Authentic bonds with others based on honesty and respect
✨ A deep understanding of the importance of self-advocacy
And frankly, not spend so much time trying to guess what other people are thinking.
We'll explore key pillars for lasting change: mindset transformation, emotional intelligence, self-compassion, and easy-to-implement assertiveness strategies. It is fluff free practical mindset tools for everyday life.
This is a straightforward, effective programme
divided into manageable weekly segments.
You'll receive workbooks to apply the concepts, and you'll have the opportunity to join live group coaching calls. It's an amazing community where people share diverse life experiences, and we learn from each other's stories.
I have designed a coaching program to support you every step of the way.
This step-by-step course aims to help you let go of guilt that no longer serves you and stop constantly worrying about being 'too much'.
Because it is so draining.
Here's why this happens: because you're stuck with the same patterns of thought. If you continue thinking the same thoughts without examining why you're thinking them, you'll keep repeating old cycles.
It's about self-compassion, acceptance, and radically transforming how we communicate with ourselves and others. It's about celebrating our needs, wants, and desires. It's about learning to believe there is space for healthy self-advocacy in your life.
And yes, you read that correctly – you are allowed to have needs.
Have you ever thought about what life would be like
if you could feel love no matter what is going on?
I'm guess probably not.
Because most of us think it is so far from possible for us.
Or we are too busy being hard on ourselves we forget there could be a world where love is an option.
Which is pretty wild, isn't it? Especially when we all know the rule of needing to put our own oxygen mask on first.
We're taught to compare ourselves to others, to be humble, to not sing our own praises and for most of us, I think we've taken this a little too far.
What could life be like if you could just ask for what you want
with no caveats?
Undermining yourself is time-consuming and distracting.
And it is also not a very effective way of getting your needs met.
And, quite honestly, it prevents you from focusing on what truly matters in life. When you stop being an arse to yourself, you can support others to do the same.
Overcoming this self-doubt creates space for clearer communication, pursuing your passions, and most importantly, gives you a whole heap of time and energy back.
Constantly questioning yourself and comparing yourself to others can be pretty exhausting (and it's often a pretty lonely experience).
Pricing options
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£97.00
Full wage
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£150.00
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Repeatedly doubting your own abilities is stressful.
Stress stops you thinking straight
t stops you sleeping, and it makes it harder to find solutions. And it is habit forming. The more we do it, the more it becomes familiar.
Wouldn't it be good if we could just put this down, once and for all?
(You know I am going to tell you it is possible, right? Because it is)
If you find yourself endlessly mulling over how you could've phrased something better, it's probably time for a fresh approach.
Does any of that sound familiar?
The feeling can be quite isolating.
Even though so many of us experience these same thoughts. It makes sense - when we're caught in self-doubt, our brains go into high alert, keeping us in a state of constant stress. It's hard to focus on your goals and dreams when you feel like you're under attack.
In this course, we explore the power of overcoming the stress of articulating your needs, how it can transform your life, and why it's perfectly okay - in fact, it's necessary - to embrace your authentic self.
In fact, I'd probably recommend it.
And I can say this because I've been there.
I used to suppress my own needs and bend over backward for others, hoping that my sacrifices would earn me a stamp of approval from the universe. Or from my partner. Or family. or boss. Or that guy I had a crush on. Or a stranger on the street. Or the shopkeeper. Or some random on the internet... I mean, no wonder we are all tired. And I thought if I did all the things for all the people, someone would notice and come and ask what I needed. But that rarely happened.
I didn't know how to address these issues because I believed there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I thought that if I did enough for others, I could somehow hide the fact that deep down, I was a terribly broken person (ie avoid judgment and win love).
It does not work. If you're reading this, you probably know that already because you have probably tried it.
This course is for those who are tired of an inner voice telling them they're not enough, and are ready to embark on a transformative journey that doesn't involve being mean to yourself all the time.
If you have been looking for the "How?"
- you're in the right place.
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🌱 Develop self-awareness to understand why it so hard to ask for things
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🌱 Identify patterns that make you feel undervalued and learn how to break free from them
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🌱 Cultivate self-confidence that enables you to own your worth and live a more fulfilling life
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🌱 Foster self-compassion and forgiveness for any past self-doubt or perceived shortcomings (psst: they're not true - and I'll show you how I know)
Many of us feel like we need to have done everything perfectly
before we deserve self-love.
Or rest.
Or a partner.
Or to go to the park.
Or
Or
Or
It's endless.
What if the secret to making everything else more gratifying was learning to trust yourself, your capabilities, and your experiences?
[spoiler: it is]
What if communicating didn't feel like such a struggle?
Imagine what would be possible
if you discovered some mind management tools to treat your life like a journey of growth, instead of bouncing between self-doubt and overcompensation or feeling like every interaction is a battle?
Imagine waving a magic wand and banishing that one persistent barrier that's been holding you back from speaking up for what you want. Here's a little secret: the roadblock we encounter is always the same - our mindset.
What if you could train your mind to stop telling you that you're not good enough, allowing you to make decisions from a place of confidence?
You absolutely can.
I am living evidence, and I'm inviting you to learn the tools that revolutionised my life.
If you struggle to believe in your abilities...
- this is the course for you.
When you start believing there is space for all of us, it releases so much pressure.
You no longer have to constantly second guess yourself and can begin to build relationships based on trust. Overcoming imposter syndrome is the first step toward creating positive change in your life and reaching your full potential.
On this course you will discover
⭐️ Why the skill of asking for what you want essential (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
⭐️ Why it can feel so challenging when you've tried many approaches, and what you can do about it (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
⭐️ Why it can seem like you're battling against yourself (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
⭐️ How taking control of your self-talk gives you back your power (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
⭐️ How deliberate actions can reshape your life (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
⭐️ Tools to prevent self-sabotage and pursue what truly matters in your life (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you)
What you will leave with
⭐️ More confidence, energy, and time for your relationships (seriously)
⭐️ The ability to stop feeling overwhelmed when facing challenges
⭐️ Techniques to stop spiralling when situations get tricky
⭐️ The ability to be more present and authentic for yourself and others
⭐️ A robust methodology to solve any problem
FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
If you have been looking for the "How?"
you're in the right place.
I teach a results-driven approach which you can apply to any area of your life.
We'll embark on a journey to:
🌱 Understand the root causes of your stress
🌱 Identify patterns that lead to burnout and master strategies to break the cycle
🌱 Cultivate energy management skills to empower you in maintaining well-being
🌱 Work how to talk to ourselves when we think we "should have known better" (hint: those feelings aren't rooted in truth - and I'll show you why) (psst: they're not true - and I'll show you how I know)
In this course, we'll learn a framework which nurtures your well-being and promotes balance in life. You'll learn to recognise your energy drains, gain a deeper understanding of your boundaries, and determine when to recharge and when to push forward.
Many of us feel like we need to have done everything perfectly before we deserve a break.
Or kindness.
Or a partner.
Or to go to the park.
Or
Or
Or
It's endless.
What if the secret to making every aspect of life more balanced was learning to recognise your own needs, honour your energy levels, and embrace the power of rest?
[spoiler: it truly is]
These are the tools I have used to build a life I love
and I am so excited to show you how this is possible for you too.
I don't teach anything on this course I have not found to be life-changing. These methods are more than tried and tested; they are lived in and stretched by me, right alongside you.
You don't have to feel stuck.
Another way is possible.
Do you ever feel like:
💔 Failing to advocate for your needs, results in you having less than you deserve?
💔 You're constantly questioning the worthiness of your desires?
💔 If you could stand up for yourself more, your life would be more rewarding, yet you don't know where to start?
This does not have to be your story.
Another way is possible.
This course teaches you how to consciously develop a personalised game plan to express your desires and boost your self-confidence, enabling you to become the assertive, confident individual who gets the good things in life.
What does that look like in reality? It means having less stress and building a toolkit from resources that have been right in front of you all along. This is the anti-hustle plan for emotional well-being and stopping putting yourself last.
All. The. Time.
"Why do I need to do the work?"
I mean, you don't have to.
But if you have read this far, I guess there are some areas of your life where you are not enjoying the results you've been getting so far.
So my invitation to you, is what else could be possible?
Here are some scenarios where this work can change your life:
🌟 Navigating conflicts with grace, resolving them without losing sleep or friends
🌟 Not batting away compliments and using them as a reason to list all of your faults
🌟 Protecting your peace by saying 'no' to commitments that drain you WITHOUT THE GUILT (I'm all about JOMO - joy of missing out - here)
🌟 Asserting your needs and desires in your relationships without fear
🌟 Not spending all your time trying to please others at the expense of your happiness
With a compassionate, expert approach (Hi! That's me!), The Ask for What you Want Without Feeling Guilty course will guide you through the process of creating and maintaining a more peaceful, more full life. You'll learn to trust in your decisions and most importantly, stop doubting your own worth.
I don’t say it lightly when I claim this work can change lives.
It has changed mine.
And you can see from the testimonials on this page - I am not the only one.
This is a straightforward, effective programme
divided into manageable weekly segments.
You'll receive workbooks to apply the concepts, and you'll have the opportunity to join live group coaching calls. It's an amazing community where people share diverse life experiences, and we learn from each other's stories.
What if you could turn down the volume on your inner critic?
Because all these negative narratives are not helping you move towards feeling at peace with yourself - and isn't that all we are ever really seeking?
When we do not feel that feeling confident in your achievements can be so challenging. Constantly undermining ourselves will make for shaky foundations.
What would your life look like if you had more time, energy and motivation for the things you love?
It can be hard to imagine, can't it?
That is because your brain does not care if you clear your inbox, have a date or might not be able to afford a holiday this year. Your brain is only focused on keeping you alive. And your brain thinks that keeping you worried and stressed is VERY IMPORTANT to your survival.
Ask For What You Want
Without Feeling Guilty
Assertively ask for what you want, empowering you to step forward in full authenticity and confidence without feeling guilty.
Here's what you'll master:
☀️ How to identify areas in your life where old stories are holding you back
☀️ How (and when) to challenge your self-doubt and limiting beliefs
☀️ Why overcoming conflict can be challenging
☀️ How to find confidence when it is tested (and it will be)
☀️ How to evolve your mindset as your life changes
You will get the following:
🏝 4 video lessons
🏝 4 coaching calls
🏝 6 workbooks so you can apply the work to your personal circumstances
Pricing options
Please see below for scholarship options
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Get started now
£97.00
Full wage
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Get started now
£150.00
Pay It Forward
