"You need to have better boundaries"
How many times have you heard that? But what are they? How to make them? When to state them? And how to keep to them.
How many times have you heard that?
But what does it even mean?
And why is no one teaching us more than soundbites?
Whenever I used to say "No", I thought I needed to come up with three chapters about how it was nothing personal and perhaps next time.
I learnt how to change this - and you can too.
Tell me if this sounds familiar...
You apologise for taking up space.
You say "I hope that's okay" after every decision like you're asking permission to have needs.
And you're exhausted.
Exhausted from monitoring everyone else's reactions to your choices. Exhausted from giving away your energy to people who don't even notice. Exhausted from living your life according to other people's comfort levels.
What if you could just... stop?
As if you haven't been trying forever
As if the problem is that you're just not trying hard enough. As if you enjoy being walked all over.
Most boundary advice I see comes from trite soundbites not lived experience. The reason so many people I coach struggle with boundaries is that they were taught they had to earn love through saying yes.
You learnt early that your value was tied to your usefulness. That being "difficult" meant being alone. That good girls don't make waves.
Now you're an adult writing three paragraphs to justify taking a lunch break.
What You Get:
- Week 1: Map your current boundary landscape (and why it's failing you)
- Week 2: Learn to build boundaries that actually stick
- Week 3: Handle pushback without backing down
- Week 4: Maintain boundaries without constant vigilance
PLUS:
- Weekly group coaching calls (with practical tools to you can learn how to coach yourself)
- A community to learn from and who support you
- Workbooks to unpack your beliefs and embed the learning in real time
Before: Over-explaining everything you desire
After: Clear, confident communication about what you need.
Before: Monitoring everyone's reactions to your choices
After: Making decisions based on what you actually want
Before: Exhausted from giving your energy away
After: Energy for the people and things that actually matter
Who This Is For:
- People who apologise for existing
- People who say yes when they mean no
- People who feel they need to over-explain having basic needs
- People who are ready to stop performing niceness to prevent them being rejected
Who This Isn't For:
- People looking for gentle self-care advice
- People who want to stay stuck
- People who aren't ready to disappoint people who do not value them
Why Group Coaching Changes Everything
So many of us struggle with boundaries.
When you join this programme, you'll discover you're part of a community who get it. Who've been there. Who are ready to support each other in this work.
Real-time support when you need it most.
Those moments when you're about to say yes when you mean no? When someone's pushing your boundaries and you're not sure how to respond? You'll have coaching on tap, a group of people working alongside you and weekly coaching calls to help you navigate it.
Accountability that actually works.
It's one thing to learn about boundaries in theory. It's another to practice them in real life with a supportive group cheering you on.
Programme goals
- Learn how to take back control of your life
- Understand where your power lies
- Be able to communicate your boundaries in a way which is heard
- Stop allowing other people to set the rules
What you're going leave with
- A map out of patriarchal beauty standards
- Practical tools and practices for you to use for life
- More energy and time for the things you love in life
- A tool kit which will support you being able to keep building a life you love.
We are taught to undermine ourselves
and this means we can unlearn it
Using a blend of counselling, coaching, somatic and thoughtwork techniques you will learn how to unpack your thoughts and connect your politics to your self care. These are methods which test those thoughts you keep undermining yourself with and map a path to where you want to be.
These are the tools which have helped me shift stuff I spent over 20 years in therapy trying to resolve. They gave me such robust results that I decided to train with my coach's teacher.
This is a place where we learn
With kindness, laughter and self-compassion. And a large spoonful of social justice and practicality thrown in for good measure.
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Why mindset is the key
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Why you keep tripping yourself up
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Why self-sabotage is a time and energy thief
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Why toxic positivity doesn't work
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How to train your brain to create habits which serve you
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Tools to stop running from your emotions (so you have more time and energy for the important stuff in life)
A collection of tools
to support you in your journey to make peace
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With Your Confidence
From body image to communication to second-guessing ourselves - when we build our confidence we pave a path to self trust.
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With Your Time
From scheduling to decision-making to people pleasing, we have courses to guide you through the time and energy sucks which are holding you back.
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With Your Mind
The way we think changes everything. We teach tools to notice what our brains is telling us, notice the stories we tell ourselves and find ways to take a fresh approaches.
Course curriculum
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Better Boundaries - Welcome - video
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A note on live calls
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Better Boundaries - Welcome - Workbook
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Better Boundaries - Welcome - Workbook - plain text
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📚 A note on printed workbooks
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 1 - video
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 1 - workbook
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 1 - Workbook - Plain text version
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 2 - video
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 2 - workbook
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 2 - workbook - plain text
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 3 - video
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 3 - workbook
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 3 - workbook - plain text version
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 4 - video
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 4 - workbook
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Better Boundaries - Chapter 4 - video - workbook - plain text version
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About this course
- £47.00
- 24 lessons
- 2 hours of video content
What would life look like if you were not undermining yourself?
It can be hard to imagine, can't it?
Because these thoughts come out of our heads so we think they ours, when actually you brains only motivation is to keep you alive. It really does not care if you meet the deadline, have a hangover or might not get that date because you didn't ask.
It is interested in keeping you safe, and safe often means small.
This is why we need tools to stretch us and keep questioning what our brains are telling us. Because we all have evidence that they are not always reliable witnesses.
For those days when your brain just won't hush, you need some robust tools
Instructor(s)
Instructor Bio:
Anna HeardinLondon
Confidence coach and empowerment photographer
As if you haven't been trying forever
As if the problem is that you're just not trying hard enough. As if you enjoy being walked all over.
Most boundary advice I see comes from trite soundbites not lived experience. The reason so many people I coach struggle with boundaries is that they were taught they had to earn love through saying yes.
You learnt early that your value was tied to your usefulness. That being "difficult" meant being alone. That good girls don't make waves.
Now you're an adult writing three paragraphs to justify taking a lunch break.